4 METHODS OF HOW TO CHANGE YOURSELF TO BE POSITIVE COMPLETELY.

Creating an entirely “new” you can be incredibly challenging, but if you feel you aren’t living up to your potential and think your life is currently on the wrong path, a drastic amount of positive change might be the best thing for you. Changing yourself completely requires honest reflection about your ideal self and current weaknesses. Set short and long term goals to reach your ideal, then find role models who will help guide you along the way and periodically self-evaluate your goals to stay on the right track.

Understanding the Change.

1. Figure out if this is what you want. As simple as that, ask yourself, “Do I want to make this change.” In order to make such a drastic change, you need to be sure that you truly desire it. Think about every aspect of your life and if you’re willing to change them.

  • Evaluate the direction of your life.
  • Understand that the activities of your life might have to change.
  • Be realistic about what it will take to get the consequences you desire.
  • If you don’t honestly believe you can to change all of these things, you’re setting yourself up for failure.

2. Figure out if it is possible. Now that you know you want to change, you need to find out if you can change. Sit down and decide if you have everything you need to make a serious life change.

  • You need the ability to change.
  • You need the tools to change.
  • You need the time to change.
  • You need the right support to change.

3. Be honest about yourself. You may think you’re being honest with yourself about your characteristics. If you’re portraying someone completely different than you believe you are, you’ll never understand what’s standing in your way.

  • Ask your peers what they think about you. If it doesn’t match up with your perspective of yourself, you aren’t being honest.
  • Evaluate the choices you make throughout the day and why you make them. When you do this, you’ll see that the reasoning behind your choices is what got you where you are. In order to change yourself completely, you’ll have to form your choices behind new reasoning.
  • For example, when you choose to stay in versus meeting friends, evaluate why you chose this and what it says about you.

4. Write down your outcome. Make an end goal for this process and write it down. Make it a measurable goal. It can have multiple parts to it, or it can be a big picture goal. Either way, put the written goal somewhere you can see every day to keep you motivated.

Find Some Role Models.

1. Learn from the best. A role model can be absolutely anyone: younger, older, friend, relative, stranger, or celebrity. Find someone who genuinely embodies the pure person you want to be. Maybe one person dresses like you want to and one person acts like you want to. You can use those pieces of each person to get inspiration from.

  • If it is someone you know, set up a meeting to pick their brain. Find out how they do what they do.
  • If it is someone you don’t know, do some research. Find out everything you can about them and see what you can do to emulate their characteristics in your everyday life.

2. Associate with the right people. Even better than finding your role models is surrounding yourself by positive people. When you sit in someone’s presence, you have much more of an ability to model how they act. Find people that have similar goals as you, or people that have already reached your goals, and spend time with them.

  • For example, if you wish to become more outgoing, surround yourself with outgoing people. If you wish to be more financially successful, spend time with the people who have financial success.
  • Avoid people that will negatively influence your change. If you’re trying to live a healthier lifestyle, it is very hard to be around someone that lives a sedentary lifestyle and eats fast food for every meal.

3. Get an accountability partner. An accountability partner is someone who keeps you on track. In return, you can help keep them on track. It should be someone that you can be in touch with any time that you’re having difficulty. Also, you should set up weekly meetings with them (via phone or in person) to talk about your progress.

  • Making your role model into your accountability partner would be a great idea. They know what it takes to get what you want, and they can help you better than anyone.

Make Tangible Goals.

1. Set daily/weekly goals. You have a “big picture goal,” now you need to make smaller ones. Every goal you make should be a step toward your outcome. It should also be tangible, or measurable. Make your accountability partner aware of these goals.

  • “Be a nicer person,” is not a tangible goal. Change it to, “Perform 2 nice things for strangers every day.
  • Don’t make a goal saying, “Workout more.” Make it tangible by saying, “Workout 4 times a week.”.

2. Adjust your goals. If you’re having difficulty reaching your goals, feel free to switch them up. Don’t use this as a cop out, but you need realistic goals or you’ll get upset and never accomplish the change. If you fail to reach your goal once, don’t automatically adjust them. Sit with your accountability partner and talk about if you really tried everything that you could to reach your goal. If you did and it was still unreachable, come up with a new goal together.

  • For example, if you’re trying to start studying more and you made a goal to study 6 hours a day, you might have trouble doing so because of school or work schedules. Change your goal to be 4 hours a day and attempt to reach that.

3. Accept success and keep moving forward. Take a moment to realize every little success you have. Each time you reach a goal, you’re getting close to your outcome. This is a great thing to have happen. However, don’t get complacent when this happens. Take the time to appreciate it and stay driven toward your next goal.

Evaluate Your Changes.

1. Recognize when you reach your outcome. When you’ve completely changed, you may not notice it at first. However, if you take the time to sit down and look at the end goal that you wrote when you decided to change, you might surprise yourself. All the little changes have become a part of you and you’ve completely changed yourself.

2. Make new goals. Don’t stop here. Use this success as motivation to drive yourself to become a better version of the person you’ve become. Just as you did before, make a big picture goal and then break it into daily or weekly goals. You’ve likely become a goal oriented person through this change, so keep it up.

  • For example, if you were aiming to change the way you look, make goals to stay focused on this. Tell yourself to go shopping once a season and buy 2 brand new outfits.

3. Stay in touch with your accountability partner. This will help keep you from regressing. Continue to share with them all of your little goals as well as your new, bigger ones.

  • Offer to help them with their goals moving forward. Show appreciation for the help they’ve given you and offer it back.

 

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9 SIGNS THAT IT IS THE TIME FOR YOU TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET!

There’s a quote saying:

“Today, you have the opportunity to transcend from a dis-empowered mindset of existence to an empowered reality of purpose-driven living. Today is a new day that has been handed to you for shaping. You have the tools, now get out there and create a masterpiece.”

At the heart of this quote, you will find that regardless of what is currently happening in your life, the way you perceive your life is what makes you happy or unhappy.

If negative assumptions or beliefs are consuming you, then you will be unhappy. On the other hand, if you have a positive mindset (even in when navigating tough times), then you will be happy. Ultimately, perception is your reality, so changing the way you look at your life can make the difference.

But how can you know when your mindset is faulty? It can be hard to tell when the negative thoughts are outside yourself or inside your psyche. That’s part of the problem with a negative mindset, it clouds your judgment.

1. You are constantly focusing on what’s wrong.

Do you always find yourself fixating on your worries and disappointments, but never thinking about the things that are actually going your way? This is a sure sign that your mindset is contaminated with negativity. There may be a lot of bad things happening right now, but odds are there are at least some aspects of your life that are in good shape.

Taking time to be thankful for those things is important, because it helps to keep the bad from completely overwhelming your perspective. If you become blind to the good things, you may lose them, or not use them to your advantage.

2. You mourn your failures but forget to celebrate your victories.

“The difficulties and struggles of today are but the price we must pay for the accomplishments and victories of tomorrow.”

This is closely related to the sign above. Do you find yourself feeling angry and despondent whenever you suffer a loss, but glossing over your victories? When you do not take the time to celebrate the moment when something goes your way, it is because on a conscious or unconscious level, you do not believe in your victory. You believe underneath it is concealing the seeds of failure.

When you do this, you continuously are sending yourself a very negative message. You believe that you will always fail, and that you cannot celebrate victories because they are all just future failures in disguise. This is a really poor way to live your life, because not only do you miss out on all of life’s precious, beautiful moments, but you spit on life itself, and on your own ingenuity, luck, and achievements.

“But I don’t want to take anything for granted,” you might reply. That is a good thing, but there is a third path, and that is gratitude. Remember, constantly casting doubts on your victories is as ungrateful as taking them for granted, because it isn’t a real acknowledgment of them.

Believe you are capable of real victory. Some things do last.

3. You don’t want to face the truth.

Complaining about reality is not going to change it. You can rage all day about the rain clouds, but it is not going to bring out the sun. It is good to have a sense of justice, to appreciate what things should be.

But in a way, relentlessly complaining is a refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth. There are simply some things you cannot change. Not everything is under your control. And there is no bigger mistake than refusing to see the world for what it is, because that is the point where you can no longer tell fact from fiction.

Take action to change the things that you can. Speak the truth when you see an injustice, but accept that the world will never be fair, as much as maybe it should be. Until you can accept that fact and change your mindset, it will never be realistic, and you will always be plagued by resentment that your expectations are not being met.

4. You feel angry when your expectations are not met.

This leads directly to another red flag. If you are constantly finding that the world or people in your life or even you yourself are not meeting your expectations, it most likely means your expectations are unrealistic to begin with. Our expectations are a huge part of our mindset. They are what we believe to be possible or necessary.

Expectations lay the groundwork for our experiences. If we have unrealistically high expectations, nothing ever satisfies us. For example, if you set out after college expecting to be a millionaire by age 30 and you find yourself nowhere near that benchmark by age 25, you will probably be pretty miserable. But are you really miserable because you are not a millionaire, or because you have not achieved what you expected to by that age?

This all comes back to seeing the world as it truly is. Maybe you are gifted and ambitious, and maybe in a perfect world, you would have your first million by now. But we do not live in a perfect world, and with all the gifts and ambition in the world, you cannot control every factor. That is why it is important to adjust our mindsets to survive and thrive in such a world.

5. You feel unsatisfied and unhappy with everything you have (or don’t have).

The downside of ambition is that it often blinds us to the wonderful things and people we already have in our life. Maybe you want a bigger home or a more expensive car, but can you remember when you didn’t even have the home or car you have now? Maybe you wish you had more friends, while disregarding the value in the friends you have now.

There is always more to strive for, but for this reason, more can never truly satisfy us. It always leaves a hole that is impossible to fill.

“You will never stop wanting more until you allow yourself to have what you already have. To take it in. Savor it. Now is a good time to do that.”

6. You find yourself regularly coming to blows with the people you care about.

If you are constantly disagreeing with the people you love, it is a good sign that your mindset may need some work, especially if you trust those people and respect and value their opinions. Your arguments with them may reflect more on you than on them. Try to see where they are coming from, it could change your mind for the better.

7. You think about what you “have to” do instead of what you “get to” do.

When you find yourself viewing everything as an inconvenience instead of as a welcome opportunity, it usually means that you are no longer appreciating what you have. “I have to do all this work,” is a tempting statement when you are tired, but you get to do all that work. Not everyone does!

Work feeds you and keeps you alive, and keeps the enjoyable things in your life accessible. So remember to appreciate your work, even when it feels burdensome!

8. You see yourself as a victim.

The problem with seeing yourself as a victim doesn’t come from the fact that it is necessarily inaccurate, sometimes you really have been victimized by bad people or unfortunate circumstances. However, constantly viewing yourself as the victim does not empower you to change or build a better life for yourself. Even if you were the victim, overcome this low self-esteem by making a decision to reject that role and start creating something better. You deserve it!

9. You hold onto the dramas of other people.

Sometimes, the negative mindsets we find ourselves struggling with do not reflect us so much as they reflect the messages we have received throughout our lives. Maybe your parents told you that you shouldn’t pursue your passions, or maybe you had a negative partner in your past who made you feel you were never good enough.

If the dramas inside your head sound familiar and you catch echoes of voices that are not yours, it may be time to let them go. Those dramas belong to those other people and reflect their judgments and perceptions, not yours.

 

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DON’T FEAR FAILURE!

Resilience. It’s the secret ingredient to success. If you can figure out how to stay the course and get back in the game after failure, you’ll go places and you’ll make the difference you were intended to make.

The truth is, most people that we revere spent more time down for the count than they did in the fight itself. The list is endless, but here are a couple that quickly come to mind. Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before he created the light bulb. Richard Branson dropped out of school at 15. His prospects looked grim at that point, don’t you think? And yet he became one of the leading businesspeople on the planet. He’s also battled dyslexia over the years, with all of the struggles associated with it.

That’s just two out of tens of thousands of people who changed the world. The lesson in all of these great people’s stories is if you haven’t failed, you’re not reaching high enough. You’re not stretching yourself. Playing it safe sounds easier at first glance, but here’s why that’s not true: It’s only a veneer of safety, a mirage that makes us feel better while we stay comfortably numb, never accomplishing the things we’re meant to accomplish.

If you are going places, failure is just part of the deal, but that’s OK. You can fix failure. You can’t fix the things you never tried. You can’t undo those things you never attempted in the first place. If you stop trying, you’ll always wonder about what could have been. That kind of regret is a heavy burden that a lot of people will bear because they played it safe, or maybe even failed a time or two and gave up.

So, have you figured out what you’re called to do in this world? That one thing that you can do better than ten thousand other people? If you have, get busy. Work hard. Never give up. If you fail, try again. No matter how difficult it is, one day the lights will come on for you and the world will be better off for it.

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ALWAYS BE PRODUCTIVE.

Productiveness is your acceptance of morality, your recognition of the fact that you choose to live. Productive work is the process by which man’s consciousness controls his existence, a constant process of acquiring knowledge and shaping matter to fit one’s purpose, of translating an idea into physical form, of remaking the earth in the image of one’s values.

All work is creative work if done by a thinking mind, and no work is creative if done by a blank who repeats in uncritical stupor a routine he has learned from others. Your work is yours to choose, and the choice is as wide as your mind, that nothing more is possible to you and nothing less is human.

To cheat your way into a job bigger than your mind can handle is to become a fear-corroded ape on borrowed motions and borrowed time, and to settle down into a job that requires less than your mind’s full capacity is to cut your motor and sentence yourself to another kind of motion; decay. Your work is the process of achieving your values, and to lose your ambition for values is to lose your ambition to live. Your body is a machine, but your mind is its driver, and you must drive as far as your mind will take you, with achievement as the goal of your road.

The man who has no purpose is a machine that coasts downhill at the mercy of any boulder to crash in the first chance ditch, that the man who stifles his mind is a stalled machine slowly going to rust, that the man who lets a leader prescribe his course is a wreck being towed to the scrap heap, and the man who makes another man his goal is a hitchhiker no driver should ever pick up.

Your work is the purpose of your life, and you must speed past any killer who assumes the right to stop you, that any value you might find outside your work, any other loyalty or love, can be only travelers you choose to share your journey and must be travelers going on their own power in the same direction.

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DREAM & SUCCESS.

We often forget that we are as we are until we’re not. We are the same until we’re changed. We can move that a bit further by putting into place healthy habits and to show up to our lives in a way that fosters growth, but we can’t game timing because it is the one thing that we often forget to surrender to.

Things are dark until they’re not. Most of our unhappiness stems from the belief that our lives should be different than they are. We believe we have control and our self-loathing and self-hatred comes from this idea that we should be able to change our circumstances, that we should be richer or hotter or better or happier. While self-responsibility is empowering, it can often lead to this resentment and bitterness that none of us need to be holding within us. We have to put in our best efforts and then give ourselves permission to let whatever happens to happen and to not feel so directly and vulnerably tied to outcomes. Opportunities often don’t show up in the way we think they will.

You don’t need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. You need less shame around the idea that you’re not doing your best. You need to stop listening to people who are in vastly different life circumstances and life stages than you tell you that you’re just not doing or being enough. You need to let timing do what it needs to do. You need to see lessons where you see barriers. You need to understand that what’s right now becomes inspiration later. You need to see that wherever you are now is what becomes your identity later.

Sometimes we’re not yet the people we need to be in order to contain the desires we have. Sometimes we have to let ourselves evolve into the place where we can allow what we want to transpire. When you find yourself in the thickness of pursuing a goal or dream, stop only to rest. Momentum builds success.

 

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DON’T LOSE HOPE..

We all go through hard times in life. It’s a part of being alive and it’s the reality we all have to deal with. There are times we forget our value as a person because we are so blinded with these thoughts of loneliness, emptiness and ego.

Somewhere along the road we become numbed with all the frustrations and dissatisfaction. But life itself isn’t always about darkness and sadness, Life is also filled with colors and that makes it beautiful. Along this path of darkness there‘s always light waiting to be seen by our daunted hearts.

Our heart is gifted to see this light. It may be hiding behind those circumstances that we encounter; in a stranger we just met at an unexpected place; a family who has been always there but you just ignored because of your imperfect relationship with them; it might be a long time friend you have or a friend you just met.

Open your heart and you will see how blessed you are to have them all in your life. Sometimes they are the light that shines your path in some dark phases of life. Don’t lose hope.

 

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3 TIPS TO GIVE A GREAT PRESENTATION.

Comedian Russell Peters rightly summed up the anxiety most of us feel while presenting when he quipped, “In other words, at a funeral, an average person would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.”

It is true that public speaking and presentations are not for everyone. But when the job demands it you can’t sit back and blame your anxiety on your genes. Whether you’re a student or a corporate executive, the following three tips are all you will ever need to give a brilliant presentation.

1. Tell a Compelling Story.
Humans have very bad attention spans which have been further deteriorated by incessant smartphone usage. We will only watch or hear things that appeal to us or we’ll move on. On average, the human attention span is approximately 8 seconds. And that is all you get. Use an interesting opening line to grab the attention of the audience. But the presentation isn’t over yet. You need your audience to listen until the very end. So, how do you do that? If you’ve ever seen good TED Talks you’ll know how beautifully those speakers curate their talks by building a story. According to professional speaker Irfan Khairi, stories are fascinating to us because they allow our imagination to wander and form a visual in our minds. Whether you’re giving a business presentation or defending your Final Year Project, it is all about compelling storytelling. If you want your audience to listen to you, then your presentation should be an intricately connected story where one thing is seamlessly linked to another.

2. Use Impressive Visuals.
A user once posted a question on Reddit that said: “What is your favorite movie and why do you like it so much?”. While the users who replied did not agree on their favorite movie, they did, however, agree that what makes a movie great is its story, the first point, and supporting elements like music and cinematography. So the interesting thing to note here is that supporting elements also play a great role in keeping audiences hooked. Use this strategy while giving a presentation. Keep your slides minimalistic and rely more on high-impact visuals rather than boring text. This will also reduce your dependency on slides and allow you to come up with your own lines.

3. Be More Interactive.
We’ve all had that teacher who used to drone on and on while the entire class slept. Try not to be like that teacher. According to a study, 91% people have admitted to daydreaming during business presentations. In order to not let that happen, keep your audience involved. As I mentioned earlier, open with an interactive question, throw in some facts and figures, and continue asking questions or opinions. Moreover, don’t restrict yourself to one corner. If you can, and if the nature of the presentation allows it, move about and mingle with the audience. This way people are bound to remember you and the killer presentation you gave them.

 

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13 METHODS TO RECOVER THE PAIN AFTER MANY FAILURES.

Many people often asked me on how to recover the pain after faced with many failures and how to regenerate self-motivation after that. I have to admit that it’s not easy to face all these challenges in life. But still, you have to be strong in mind and spiritually. Below are my answers based on my personal experiences. Methods to recover the pain after each failures:

  1. Focus on the good and positive vibes,
  2. Avoid negative people (it can be from someone who’s very or close to you, that’s why you need to be ready mentally) because they’re the main reason why you can’t move forward,
  3. Keep doing and focus on what’s your goals for future,
  4. Do your study and research on what you want to do,
  5. Accept the fact that every failure is to put you at the right path to be success (so it’s part of the nature and process to be success),
  6. You need to have a timetable/schedule for your goals, be discipline to the maximum because you only live once,
  7. Busy yourself with doing the things you love (regarding your future and not something that can bring bad things as effect),
  8. Niche every part involves in achieving your goals,
  9. Learn from your past mistakes and experiences,
  10. Keep spread love and good things to the world. There’s a quote by Richard Branson saying that, “If you can’t focus on doing something for your future, then take a break by doing something good and helping others who’s in need even it’s just a little things.”
  11. Learn to forget the past but learn something from it,
  12. Always think positive on yourself,
  13. Stop watching and listening to something that can bring your mood down, and look into something that can bring smile and laughter to yourself.

6 ways to regenerate your self-motivation:

  • Listen to your heart, again AVOID negative people/environment.
  • Do a lot of reading inspirational stories, articles and quotes from those people who already succeed in their life.
  • Spread love and love yourself more by a positive thoughts about yourself (never look down on yourself).
  • Watch TED Talks.
  • Be close with positive people in your life (it can be the one who always be there for you or someone who give their support to you even from far).
  • Find a right mentor for you to refer, keep in touch and ask for guide.

Hopefully all these methods can inspire you to be success.

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NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS!

As you walk through life, you will fall down many times. You will fail and you will make mistakes, but that’s okay. Keep in mind that life is a process of becoming. You go through life to find yourself, to become yourself. Through every little thing you do, through every word you say and through every action you take, you are meant to discover more and more about yourself. About your inner journey, your life path and about the purpose and meaning of your own life.

We are all here for a reason. Each and every one of us has a purpose to fulfill. We all have a unique and precious contribution to make to this world and to every living being that inhabits this Earth. And the more we let go of our fears, excuses, and limitations, and the need to live our lives according to other people’s expectations, the easier it will be for us to contribute and to do the beautiful work that we came here to do. The easier it will be for us to make our dreams come true.

Never allow your fears, doubts, excuses, and limitations to get in the way of the beautiful and meaningful life that you are meant to be living. Never give up on yourself. Never give up on your dreams.

If I could say one thing to the young people of today, it would be this: “Never give up. Keep trying and pushing and struggling, even if you don’t know what your goal is or why you would want to achieve it.”

As you march down the street not giving up, hold your head high and swing your elbows. People will recognize you as someone who won’t give up, and they will get out of your way. Some of them will even hide.

Some will try to discourage you. They’ll say that what you’re doing is ‘illegal’, or a ‘sin’, or ‘impossible’. They may cling to your legs, causing you to drag them along, or jump onto your back, pleading, “In the name of God, please stop what you’re doing!”

Keep going. Rest assured, they’re jealous.

“We’re not jealous, honestly,” they may say. “Just please stop!” Maybe you’ve struck a nerve.

“No, you haven’t struck a nerve,” they’ll say. “What you’re doing is just awful, and we’d like you to stop!”

Let that be your inspiration. Shake off the naysayers and trudge on, through the mud and the filth and the slime, knowing that you have a higher purpose. Remember, nobody liked van Gogh’s work, and if nobody likes yours it’s probably a sign that you’re a genius.

Look to the horizon. See that little dot? No, not that one, the one that’s even farther out. You can barely see it. Now don’t stop until you reach it. Take out your machete and hack a new path through the jungle, even if there is an old path just a few feet away. Fend off the monkeys of “good manners” and the sloths of “patience.”

We are born with the instinct not to give up. As babies, we cry and scream until we get what we want. But somewhere along the line we lose that ability. People talk us out of our crazy ideas, people who live in the so-called real world, where things “make sense.” They’ve never attempted the impossible. But you have, many, many times.

Keep pushing ahead, not in a way that seems pushy but in a way that says you won’t stop. Some people say you shouldn’t bang your head against a wall. Tell that to the woodpecker.

Along the way, there will be compromises, bribes and torture and “hunting accidents.” You may have to engage in unnatural sex acts. But don’t give up. With each unnatural sex act, you will be one step closer to your goal.

When you finally reach the first stage of success, congratulate yourself. But remember that there are twenty-four more stages of success.

Some people may ask, “If I take a rest, even a little one, is that the same as giving up?” Yes, it is. But if you need to pretend to give up, so that people will leave you alone, go ahead. Then keep doing what you do, but even harder.

Several years ago, there was a man who wouldn’t give up. He was just an actor, but he had bigger things in mind, in the world of politics. People tried to talk him out of his wild-eyed notions, but he wouldn’t listen. And that man was John Wilkes Booth.

Keep pushing and scraping and clawing and begging. Even in your dreams, don’t give up. If you dream that you are wearing nothing but underpants, try to make them expensive, executive underpants.

Eventually, all your determination will pay off. The same people who mocked your ideas and tackled you will now claim to love your vision. “We love it! We love it!” they’ll say. Keep running and never give up on your dreams. Believe in yourself that you can do it and you will make it!

 

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6 REASONS WHY WE WANT TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS.

Each day we are dreaming about our goals. Each day we are moving forward, step closer to the success. Sometimes we are so focused on our objectives that we don’t have time to think why we desire success. What is the reason? Do we really need it? Is it coming from the conscious or unconscious part of our mind?

I have a simple exercise for you, my friends. Don’t worry; it doesn’t require you to move away from screen and it will take no more than few minutes. Just relax and focus thoughts on your latest success you have achieved. It doesn’t have to be something really big and outstanding. A small success that you have recently experienced is absolutely enough. Okay, got it?

Imagine that achieving success is like a journey; sometimes it can be quite easy, sometimes really tough, can be also short or very long. Let’s figure out why you took this journey and what helped you to accomplish it.

Jump in your memories to the point where your journey began. Recall feelings and emotions connected to this moment. What was the reason you decided to set yourself this goal? How did you take your first step? While moving your thoughts on the path toward your goal, try to identify factors that motivated you and increased your energy to go forward. Look also for those who obstructed your journey. How did you cope with them? Finally, arrive to your destination point. What did you feel when you succeed? Were you truly happy or maybe disappointed as the goal didn’t bring you satisfaction and fulfillment?

Don’t worry if above questions was difficult for you. To help you answering them, I share with you the six main reasons, which I identify why we want to achieve success.

1. We want to achieve success because it is a part of our life plans.

Success is strongly related with our life plans. We can distinguish certain milestones in our plans, like graduating, getting a desired job, starting own business or new relationship. Achieving these milestones are successes for us. Each of these goals brings us positive feelings and emotions because we know that our life plans are fulfilling and that we are making visible progress.

2. We want the output related with certain success.

In many cases we want to experience benefits related with the achievement of a certain goal. In our minds, we have a strong association between these benefits and a state when we are successful. This association causes our success to be desirable and enjoyable.

3. We love the taste of winning.

Achieving success is a very positive experience also because it adds value to us and pumps our egos. Achieving success is like personal victory. People love winning. It is very natural. When two children play a game, each of them want to win. It is not important if there is any material prize. They don’t need any additional purpose. It is deep in our nature that we love the taste of winning.

4. We need stimulation.

Knowing that there is a purpose, a goal we want to achieve, it stimulates us to act. The more challenging goal, the stronger success feeling is related to it. This way, we can get a better motivation to achieve bigger goals and we get additional stimulus to self-improve, grow personally and learn to handle challenging goal.

5. We want to compensate lacks and failures from the past.

We all make mistakes. Failures are definitely not nice, but they are unavoidable in our lives and they should always provide valuable feedback. They also raise a strong force that will push us toward further goals. We lost, but in the end we want to win. This victory, preceded by many failures, can compensate all previous unpleasant experiences. This pattern is very often responsible for a reason why we want to achieve success.

6. We find success as a solution for our problems.

Enjoying success is a very positive experience. It can weaken influence of other, bad experiences in our life. We often find it easier to act in one direction, when we expect success, while we avoid handling different, unpleasant problems in our life. What is important is that we are often unaware of this mechanism as it mostly works on unconscious level.

Now, one more time ask yourself questions from the first part of this article. Is it easier now to answer them and identify your reasons?

I’m sure you have just achieved higher level of consciousness, as far as achieving success is concerned.

 

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The program can be conducted face-to-face or 100% online for those who are far from Kuala Lumpur. I am looking forward for the opportunity to work with you. You may visit my website at: www.shahalghazali.com

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